TITLE:NICE GIRLS DON’T GET THE CORNER OFFICE
AUTHOR:LOIS P. FRANKEL
They need to tread waters beyond the limits that the society has set, to stand up for their rights, to take up top notch career roles, to say no without apologizing, empower other women and get rid of emotional retardation.
After reading this stunning book I feel like every bouquet of flowers offered to a lady upon graduating from the University should be accompanied by a copy of Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office by Lois P. Frankel. The book with the tacky title is a revelation of a bunch of mistakes we make as ladies in our career. There is quite a good number of tips that any lady can glean from the book especially subtle actions one can accommodate in their daily routine quickly.
The initial chapter has as a questionnaire with 49 questions that the reader is expected to answer. The results will evidence your strong and weak areas. The weak areas will determine which topics of the book you will cover and therefore you are not compelled to read the entire book. Girls especially those who have been brought up in a pigeonholed society will relate so much with the Frankel. The subservient lady will be nice to people and forget her needs to have everyone like them, not to mention they cannot toot their horns.
Frankel hopes to eliminate the ‘soft girl syndrome.’ As ladies, we need to be assertive in our careers and stop trying to act the shy little girl in our careers. The 101 unconscious mistakes women make that sabotage their careers emerge as a result of the social cues we unknowingly pick up while growing up which are stereotypical roles. Lois argues that if there is anyone to take the first blame, it is the women. A woman needs to be aware of how to respond to some issues such as playing the gender card, when to and not apologize, handling personal and work life, managing office politics among others. Lois appreciates that the mistakes are inexhaustible and recommends a good number of other books.
The central theme of the book is ‘quit being a girl’ which is a bitter pill to swallow. It comes as a mirror which challenges girls if at all they do not like the current situation, to take it upon themselves and be the change. They need to tread waters beyond the limits that the society has set, to stand up for their rights, to take up top notch career roles, to say no without apologizing, empower other women and get rid of emotional retardation.
No matter how independent, this book highlights inherent traits to every woman that allow others to overlook us. You don’t need to be a shrinking violet to read the book; the stereotypical norms still cripple in us despite our age. It’s no surprise that some women and men will bristle at the naked advice that hacks chauvinist. I believe Lois is not trying to teach women to be men but rather to quit from being the idealist woman to the ambitious woman who aims to thrive in the present world.
Ladies taking risks can do so much (no puns intended)